October 28, 2015

Releasing Stress, Finding Joy

Hello my friends,

One of my students came for his lesson this morning.

I asked how he’s feeling. His reply was the same as always:

He’s stressed.

He said a new project began and he’s stressed.

He hasn’t danced AT ALL in awhile.

He’s been coming for a good couple of years, not too often, but very regularly.
I wonder, sometimes, why he continues to come.

Clearly, it is his choice. He gets aches and pains as we all do, but it doesn’t seem to be the deeper reason.

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October 28, 2015

Coordination of the head and neck in Dance; Secrets to Balance

Hello my friends,

Today as I was teaching, my student was speaking. I noticed her neck tighten and grab as she spoke.

Stay with me; this applies to dance, as well…

She couldn't feel it, but it was visible in the mirror as well as evident on a tactile level, as I gently laid a hand on her head and neck.

We worked with the idea to leave her neck quiet as she speaks.

That was the take-away from the lesson – to leave her neck and shoulder quiet and do an activity, in her case, talking.

It’s not achieved by stiffening the muscles.

It’s done by not adding something - in her case, not adding tightening, while she talks.

It’s important because she gives talks, often 1 to 1½ hours in length. Tightening up her throat impacts her ability to speak well with a clear voice and not get hoarse.

It also shows up in dance; the head being balanced is critical to being balanced on your feet and tightening the neck often puts the head out of balance.

Let me share some secrets of coordination with you...secrets of balance on your feet.

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October 6, 2015

ABC of Changing Movement Patterns in Dance

Hello my friends,

I learned something about changing my bad dance habits. Hope this helps you!

In a recent post, I showed a video of a backwards bicycle and talked about how you need to think differently to use it.

How can you use this thinking process to move differently than your habit, in dance?
What does it take to UN-learn a pattern of movement?

In theory, it's simple:

A - you have to realize what you are doing, and decide that it is not producing the result you wish.

B - you really need to stop doing whatever that is. It's not easy, because we tend to move on auto-pilot.

C - put in what you DO want in terms of movement.

Children can do this more easily than adults. They haven't had as many years to learn wrong movement habits

It's also because children are willing to play! They'll try things that feel different and they don't always take everything so seriously.

Changing movement patterns takes thinking into your body, and in addition, it takes truing up your body awareness so what you ask your body to do, is what it does.

You have to convince your MIND that your BODY is wrong, because our inner sense and habit is usually what rules.

In my case..."Dana, don't twitch the free leg." Shh...telling my secrets…

I have to THINK it very strongly as well as get used to a different sensation, because it happens before I know it, underneath my sense register; I stick out the free leg to reach for a step and interfere with my dance partner. Not good!

So I have to think and think and think, till I’m retrained.

Have you ever felt pain in your foot? I have a sensitive area at the ball of my foot. At some level, I anticipate pain in my toes and unconsciously avoid putting pressure in that area. Then I move incorrectly and I feel pain which reinforces the anticipation of pain, the next time…

Oddly enough, when I'm perfectly aligned, I can be up on my toe and in a huge shape and not even feel pressure on my foot. My partner puts me on my toe in readiness and there is a pause…the delicious moment before movement…

It may not feel "normal" but it does feel good.

I want to help dancers find this place and feel something wonderful in their body that feels…like no words can say…amazing…

...to give them a sense of peace as well as control that lets you direct both line and movement... to feel a sense of space in the body ...the ability to release on command, but not to collapse... You can control the letting go, too, you know...

..it’s an amazing sense of expansion; I don’t even have words…

The Zen of dance, a non-doing-ness yet all is in flight.



*Alexander Technique is about connecting thought and muscular activity. It increases your body awareness and gives you the power to change how you do, what you do, as you do it.

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October 5, 2015

Quiet the Body and Mind Workshop/ Alexander Technique

Hello my friends,

Please join me in a special workshop to Quiet the Body and Mind

Bring a friend and share a wonderful gift of peace that you can take home and have forever.

at the Palo Alto JCC - sign up HERE
Monday, Oct. 12th
11:30 am - 12:45 pm
Leslie Community Meeting Room (D129)
$25 Center Members
$40 General

Learn a simple process to renew your spirit and restore ease and comfort in your back. Constructive Rest is a guided, easy to learn practice that quiets the body and mind, resulting in less back pain and an overall sense of relaxation and expansion in the body.

Bonus: Participants will receive an audio recording to help them continue this practice at home. This is my gift to you. 1076955_vibrant_gift.jpg


For more information or to register, please contact
Bonnie McLaughlin at
fitness@paloaltojcc.org or
(650) 223-8719.

Feel free to CONTACT ME (contact form on the blog page)

Give yourself the gift of peace,



*Alexander Technique (AT) is about connecting thought and muscular activity. It increases your body awareness and gives you the power to change how you do, what you do, as you do it.

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October 1, 2015

Dance Frame from the Inside-Out

Hello my friends,

Sometimes it feels as though I'm dancing inside...even though I'm standing still.

Welcome to the inside of my Dance Diary, again...

Today as I was teaching,* I was also conscious of balance in myself as I worked with my student. There's nothing new about that, but I was very aware of space today.

I opened the window to see gray clouds and feel soft, tropical moisture in the air. That air was the space around me, touching me.

Then I turned my thoughts inward, to the space within. I started noticing the space within my joints and thought about how the bones connect at the joints.

In each joint there is space and there is also, connection.

It's like a healthy relationship that has space to breathe and also, connect.

And as I thought about the space where my head connects to my neck, I felt my neck and back releasing down and out from my head.

My head felt as if it was floating.

Then I thought of my shoulders, both of them, right and left, and how they go away from each other in opposing directions.

From the left shoulder my arm releases out, out from the shoulder joint. It goes away from my body, down to the elbow.

From the elbow, I sensed my forearm releasing away from the elbow joint. I bent my arm and the hand was towards my middle, my elbow pointing wide, away from the body.

My arms were going away from each other, the elbows wide, the hands coming in, and the fingers releasing out from the hands.

There was space inside the circle of my arms around the inside of my wrists and hands to my chest and stomach. I thought again of the space behind me and allowed my back to expand in that direction.

I looked like I was hugging a huge tree made of air…

I left my back in place and took my arms, my elbows forearms, wrists and hands, away from my back in big movements, out and around.

There was a pleasure in the sensation of the freely moving arms and essential stillness of my head, neck and back.

Then I thought about how this applies to dance, taking my frame into connection with my partner, bringing my body to connect and my frame to remain open and wide. Head releasing up and out, legs releasing down, arms to my partner.

Like a bird, poised to fly.

We dance a spin turn. I feel nothing-everything spinning yet the same, my frame is constant relative to my partner. Me, giving energy to my partner, him, redirecting it to spin.

Effortless action.



*Alexander Technique (AT) is about connecting thought and muscular activity. It increases your body awareness and gives you the power to change how you do, what you do, as you do it.

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September 7, 2015

Learning about Freedom and Control in Ballroom Dance

Hello my friends,

Welcome to the inside of my Dance Diary, again :).

Last Monday, we were learning head rolls in Viennese Waltz.

I had to focus to keep my frame open widely and yet fully release my neck, to keep my arms toned, yet allow my head to roll. Letting it go… all the way to the end … not to push it around and stop it muscularly. A discipline of freedom and control.

There was something a little bit scary about releasing my head, but it also felt good. My neck literally was free!

One roll, two rolls, three rolls, done.

And again…and again…

It was tempting - and all too easy - to relax everywhere when my neck released, and let the body collapse along with my head rolling.

As my head rolled to my right, my whole body really wanted to go with my head…that’s natural, that’s the way head weight works, but in this case, the demand was to isolate the action of the head and neck and still maintain a beautiful frame.

The head leads and sometimes the body is not allowed to follow.

I released the back of my neck and let my head roll with the movement from my partner, down and around, stop! Down the other way and around to the end, and back again.

I used my thoughts to control my body.

Inside of myself, thinking: WIDE out the arms from the center between my shoulders, WIDE in opposing directions out the shoulders, out through the elbows and beyond. AND release the neck AND let the head roll and breathe, no fear, just enjoy.

The freedom of my neck is a very happy thing

Thinking into the neck, down to the base, finding it within my body. Feeling the inner space and having a different kind of sensation as my arms extend out.

My body sense has developed into a kind of internal vision through my work with the Alexander Technique.* It’s a kind of internal awareness that can find the right place and direct my body from the inside, out. Of course I make mistakes...lots and lots of them...but I also learn. It helps me to learn faster. That awareness, that freedom and control is what I want to share with you...I see people dance and want to transfer that feeling to them....in classes...in a lesson...to feel the essential freedom as your body moves through space to music...almost boneless, effortless, yet with form...

Trying to describe the feeling is like telling someone how good it tastes to eat a delicious honeydew melon at the peak of perfection.

I would love to share a taste of that sweetness with you.


*Alexander Technique is about connecting thought and muscular activity. It increases your body awareness and gives you the power to change how you do, what you do, as you do it.

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August 22, 2015

The power to change - in dance, in movement, in life

Hello my friends!

Here's a question for you.

Suppose you are a dancer and you want to move differently than you've been used to doing, and it's not working.

What do you do?

Do you just try harder?

You want to have an upright posture even while you lower into your legs, but every time you tell yourself to lower, your body collapses. You try it over and over again, but it doesn't work.


and the upper body falls

Lower! ...you say to yourself, "and I really mean it this time...'

...and you lower and the legs bend, and the torso sinks...


and again...

Here's a secret: If you want to change how you move in dance, change your thinking.

It's a little bit like rubbing your head and patting your stomach, it feels odd at first.

And I will not lie to you, doing it well, takes practice.

I know.

I spend hours training myself out of old habits of floating around the dance floor feeling good but not having any particular form, to being able to use my body in the way I want it to move.

It's not just about practice.

It's the way you practice.
It's how you think while you are in movement
and how you connect that thinking with different body awareness.

I use this as a dancer.

I think upwards and lower into my legs. I use every mind-body Alexander thought I can muster...and my dance is improving. There's always room for more improvement, but I see change.

Apple was right! Think different. And connect that thinking to different body awareness.

Whatever you think you feel, there's more...much more...



*Alexander Technique is about connecting thought and muscular activity. It increases your body awareness and gives you the power to change how you do, what you do, as you do it.

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August 21, 2015

Welcome to Dana's Dance Diary


I've been D4dancing for as long as I've had email, but even my friends and family may be surprised by this. Loving dance is one thing. Living it, is something else.

A few years ago I was inspired.

I wanted to take "A Year to Dance," and so I recorded my dancing every day for a year.

I missed some days and may miss some days in this diary but I will do my human best to jot a few notes about my exploration.

I finally decided to live the dream.

To live as a dancer

And to share what I know with my students, my friends, and with You.

I don't know how It will all work out but I know it is my soul purpose, connecting with my inner Light, through Dance.

As a friend said recently, "do what you love and find a way to make money at it."

In that order

Doing what I love

I'm an *Alexander Teacher, having first come into contact with it over 30 years ago

And I'm a Dancer, having first come into contact with dance before I can remember myself as a sentient being.

This is my dance diary, an exploration of how the body moves from the inside out, applying it to Ballroom, to Argentine Tango, to Dance.

Exploring how the exchange of energy works between partners.

Finding ways to free myself from the constraints of old muscular habits, or even more limiting, old beliefs about what I THINK my body can do.

No limits, no age, no holds barred.

I dance because I have to dance

It is my soul
And not to dance is to deny who I am

Once upon a time in a lifetime long, long ago, I wanted to be a dance major in college. but everyone else seemed so much better than me. I didn't believe in myself...not enough...not then.

Living the Dream.

Come, join me on this little expedition into life as Dancer.

See you tomorrow.



*Alexander Technique is about connecting thought and muscular activity. It increases your body awareness and gives you the power to change how you do, what you do, as you do it.

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August 7, 2015

Heads Up on Posture

Hello Friends,

Once upon a time, my mother would ask me to place a book on top of my head and walk around the living room. Head held high, off I'd go for as long as possible. It was an interesting precursor both to my profession teaching the Alexander Technique, and my beloved avocation, ballroom dancing.

As it happens, walking with a book on your head is not a bad idea! It may help you think about keeping your head up on top.

The world famous dancer, Bill Irwine, demonstrated ballroom dancing with a teacup on his head. He was that smooth and that elegantly balanced in movement.

Try it; can you walk with a book on your head? Does it help you stay upright?
Do you dare try a teacup?

Why can't you just "straighten up" at will and stay that way?

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May 10, 2015

Mom was right, POSTURE MATTERS!

Hello my friends,

It's Sunday, May 10th; Mother's Day.

Let me ask you. Did your mom tell you to sit up straight?

It turns out she was right...

From the American Journal of Pain Management 1994, 4: 36-39:

Posture affects and moderates every physiologic function from breathing to hormonal production.

Spinal pain, headache, mood, blood pressure, pulse, and lung capacity are among the functions most easily influenced by posture.

The most significant influences of posture are upon respiration, oxygenation, and sympathetic function. Ultimately, it appears that homeostasis and autonomic regulation are intimately connected with posture. The corollary these observations that many symptoms, including pain, may be moderated or eliminated by improved posture.

Alexander Technique is a gentle way to undo poor habits of movement and posture and restore your natural poise. It is a hands-on, educational method that helps you help yourself.

Studies show it has long lasting benefits for many problems often related to poor posture, including neck and back pain, as well as easing stress in the mind and body.

with special thanks to my colleague in the U.K, Adrian Farrell.

Happy Mother's Day!


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April 13, 2015

Alexander Technique @ the Palo Alto JCC - Confidence Posture and Poise

Hello my friends!

You are invited! Come be part of a small group class and receive intensive personal attention in a new, 4 week series: Alexander Technique for Confidence, Posture and Poise

Class begins this Saturday, April 18th. Class is OPEN TO ALL, you don’t have to be a member to participate.

Come for the series if you can, drop in if you need!


Saturdays, April 18 & 25 and May 2 & 16
Meet in the Fitness Center Lobby
10:00 AM-11:30 AM
$160 Members | $200 General Public
Drop-in Rate: $45 Members | $55 General Public

Register online: https://paloaltojcc.org/Events/EventId/506/e/confidence-posture-and-poise-18-apr-2015

Or call Bonnie @ the JCC (650) 223-8719

Note – this will be limited to the first 10 people to sign up, so that I can give lots of individual attention. Sign up today!

In this series, you will:

- Learn a step-by-step process and specific techniques to improve your posture and increase your confidence and poise.
- Learn to identify habits you have built up over a lifetime of stress and move more freely.
- Walk away feeling tall, confident and more comfortable in your own body.

Good posture correlates to positive self-image and lower stress hormones. Studies show that powerful posture is even more important than hierarchical power in organizations.

This is fabulous for anyone wanting to advance in their profession or who does presentations.

Come walk tall and feel like the star you are!

Please don’t hesitate to contact me with any questions.

Be tall! Feel free!


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January 20, 2015

Free talk on Confidence, Posture and Poise - with Alexander Technique

Dear Friends,

The New Year has begun, and I’d like to take the opportunity to express my gratitude to you. Thank you for the incredible privilege of working with you and witnessing your growth. To my friends and family, thank you for being part of my world. I appreciate and am grateful for each and every one of you

First up in 2015 - Save the date for a free talk on Confidence, Posture and Poise.

Saturday, February 7
1:30 PM–2:30 PM
Room E-104, Oshman Family JCC, 3921 Fabian Way, Palo Alto

- Studies show that powerful posture is more important than hierarchical power in organizations.

- The way you enter a room instantly sends a message.

- Use your inner body awareness as a power tool to create the image you would like to convey.

Register for this free talk:
email Bonnie Mclaughlin at fitness@paloaltojcc.org
or call (650) 223-8719

Come to a fun talk, bring your friends, all are welcome!
Take home tips you can use immediately to improve your presence!

Remember to register by phone or email as space is limited.

I wish you health, happiness and success in 2015.

May you walk tall and feel fabulous!


P.S. As you move forward into self-care after a series of lessons, please remember to share about your experience. Your referrals are what allow me to keep being here for you and everyone, and I appreciate them very much.


Dana Ben-Yehuda, M.AmSAT

Certified Alexander Technique Practitioner
Practitioner of Reconnective Healing® and The Reconnection®

“…Empowering people to live pain free, with grace and poise.”

web: www.alexandertechniquestudio.org
blog: www.appliedalexander.com
phone: 650-964-4308

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